Never “Define The Relationship” Again

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October 28, 2013 by Deb Lammers

You’ve been dating for a while, but no one wants to rock the boat and have “the talk”. Insecurities are high and the fear of ruining things tops the list. You determine to broach the topic, but chicken out at least 15 times. It’s stressful, I get it. There are so many unknowns. What if talking about it actually brings the relationship to an end? What if you scare them away or you want different things? What if you wind up single for the rest of your life? So many questions!

Wouldn’t you love to be in a relationship with someone where there is no need to wonder about your status? Can you imagine how freeing it would be to simply know where you stand and where you are headed? What if the other person made it clear right off the bat that they loved you, were willing to sacrifice for you and couldn’t wait to marry you?

Jesus calls you His bride. You may or may not know him, but he knows you. He thinks you are incredible. He wants to take you out on dates, shower you with gifts, spend late nights just talking and He makes a great impression on parents! He’s written you a bazillion love letters and made wonderful plans for the both of you. He wants to take you on adventures that you never knew existed and for you to be fully satisfied by His love for you. Like Isaiah 62:5b says, “as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.” If you accept His love, you are without a doubt engaged and headed towards marriage.

Now is the fun part, you and he get to know everything about one another and work through problems in preparation for your marriage. You get to go places together and discover why you are perfect for each other. You get to learn what makes the other tick and how they inspire you to be a better person. The rest of your life here on earth is about preparing to have a wonderful marriage in heaven. God’s currently preparing your house and allowing you the time you need to fall in love with Him. He is kind and patient with you, even when you have doubts about your relationship. He wants to work through everything together and do life with you. He loves your quirks and is completely enamored. He says to you, “I have loved you with an everlasting love” (Jeremiah 31:3)

If you are still not convinced God wants to marry you, Isaiah 54:5 says, “For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called”. Have confidence that God intends to marry you and is orchestrating your love story to bring about a wedding and life together that’s better than your wildest imaginings. Relationships with another human are fun, but never forget that those relationships are intended to be an imperfect reflection of our true love story with Jesus. He’s defined the relationship, how are you responding?